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Physical Touch - Love Language for Self Love

Updated: Jan 12, 2023

This love language is easy when we are discussing physical touch to show love to a loved one, but how do we apply this language as a way to love on ourselves? Well, we just need to get a little creative and confident.

Hair Love. Show your hair some extra attention. Give yourself a scalp massage, deep condition your hair, detangle it with the tender love and care it deserves. Your hair is your crown. Make sure you tend to it as such.

Masturbation with intention. Don't blush. We are all grown folks here. Masturbation is a great way to show love to your physical body. Get to know yourself and your body by planning a date with yourself. There is no need to wait for a play date to enjoy all the benefits orgasms can offer. Orgasms are great for our immune system, they are an instant mood booster and always adds a natural glow to your face. And if orgasms are a mysterious experience for you, this is one of the best ways to get familiar with yourself.

Moisturize with intention. After bathing, find your favorite lotion or body oil and begin to moisturize yourself slowly and intentionally. You can start from your head to your toes or the bottom up, which ever is your style. As you moisturize yourself, speak love and life into your body. Extra points if you do this in front of a mirror.

I bring love and acceptance into my body.

My body is beautiful.

Thick thighs save lives.

I am fine and divine.

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Dance, Stretch, Move. Especially your womb area. It is so important for us women to move that energy with fluidity. That energy is in our Sacral Chakra. It is the home of our emotions, our creative energy, and our sexual expressions. You know you need to do extra work on this area if you are feeling creatively blocked, you lost your sexy or your hips well stiff!

Move your womb! Place your hands on your hips and just move. You can start with a slow sway. It doesn’t need to be fluid, sexy, or cool. Just move.

Laugh. It really is the best medicine. Watch something that makes you laugh. Think of how laughing feels in the body. It starts in your stomach (sacral chakra) and moves up through your body up and out your mouth (throat chakra). There is so much excitement and joy that your body cannot contain the sensation and is forced to make a noise (laughter). Laughing is incredible. On a biological level, laughing increases the endorphins that is released by your brain which is a natural pain killer and brings on feelings of joy and euphoria. So laughing gives you a natural high.

Conscious Breathing. In a safe space, sit in a comfortable position and place your left hand on your heart and your right hand on your belly.

Eyes soft and focused or closed.

Inhale for 1…2…3…seconds

Exhale for 3…2…1…seconds

Repeat until fulfilled. When a thought arises, allow it to pass with your exhale.

Conscious breathing can be practiced in a couple different ways, but the focus is the breath and the current moment. This practice can lower your blood pressure, calms your nervous system and it helps to filter your brain and body with clean oxygen which allows you to think clearer. Spiritually, this practice can assist in bringing on feelings of love, gratitude, calmness and so much more.

Eye Gazing. Eye gazing consist of looking yourself in the eyes. Now, technically it isn’t a physical activity, but it is very intimate and can help one in embracing oneself. The word GAZE is defined “to look steadily and intently, especially in admiration.” And that is what we will be doing. We will not be merely looking or noticing. We will gaze at ourselves. Admire what we see in our eyes and through our eyes.


Sit in a comfortable position in from of a mirror. The mirror should be big enough where you can see your entire face without having it close to your face.

When you are ready, begin to gaze at yourself. Your gaze will drift from the left eye to right and around your face. That is perfectly fine.

Gaze into your eyes.

At your eyebrows.

At your nose.

Your lips.





Eye gazing can evoke a multitude of emotions. Tears, laughter, smiling, curiosity. Welcome them. The only thing is not welcomed is judgment. This is a moment of admiration. So, if/ when a judgmental thought sneaks up, do your best to cut it off. Take a break. Look away and start again.

You are beautiful. You are perfect the way you are.

Start with one minute. Then increase as it feels comfortable for you.

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